[Kate*]

Stop judging me and being "sad" that you haven't seen me since Christmas or in years and stop shaming me for not wanting to see or deal with them! I'm a grown woman exercising my right to set boundaries with toxic people. It's not my fault they're family. Considering what I let the program do to me, you should consider this healthy and you would benefit from doing it too.

She's your mother, but you aren't forced to deal with her just because no one else wants to. She put herself here and most of the stuff she's dealing with she brought on herself and is either managing poorly or refusing to treat or deal with. I'm dealing with stuff I didn't even almost self-inflict, that even has the experts at a loss, but I'm doing what I can for myself, seeking help, and I don't use it as an excuse to make other people miserable.

Yes, he's my dad, but you know what he's like and I've been trying to deal with it for over 20 years. If he can't at least listen when I try to tell him, cutting as much contact as possible, especially now, is the healthiest decision I can make for myself. It's not my fault if he doesn't understand why.