Re: Sex crazy boyfriend -
April 14th 2017, 01:15 AM
I think if your boyfriend won't respect your boundaries, you need to walk away in those situations. You need to make it clear that his behaviour and persistence in wanting to have sex all the time makes you feel objectified and degraded when you want your relationship to be about more than just having sex. If he keeps persisting, you need to say "no, I mean it, and if you're not willing to back up, I'm going to go away" and literally get up and walk away from him. If he still won't back off, go home if you're at his place if you have to, tell him to leave your home, etc. Don't let him treat you that way, it's not ok. I don't care how high his sex drive is, that doesn't give him an excuse to take away your consent and your desire in the process, and you have to use your voice and your power to assert yourself ok! My ex was like this, but in someways worse (he was very manipulative and it got to the point that I had to accept he was abusive). Even years later it is still hard for me to assert myself in my relationship (with a different guy) but it's so important to do so in these sorts of circumstances. Just remember that he's doing this though, not you, he won't respect the need to find a balance in your relationship where both of you are comfortable with the sex. He won't rein it in and meet you half way, and unfortunately you're going to have to be the one to assert yourself and set up boundaries. I hope it'll work out. But remember you deserve to be treated well.
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