[Kate*]

No, you are lucky. There are some of us with the same, similar or different circumstances, that worked just as hard and ended up screwed. You are lucky. I put the time in too, I dreamed and planned as much as you did, and I'm dealing with a life collapse and life-long trauma because of the same people who eventually gave you what you wanted. I wonder if I had put up with their illegal crap, if I'd still be there too.