[Kate*]

If you start saying that "happiness is a choice." in any form, I'm finding a new therapist. And I really hope you didn't mean that inability to choose emotions = medication is necessary.

I'm doing what the professionals are recommending to try and build some semblance of a life that I don't constantly want to give up on. No, you don't know, some of it you just don't know, and some of it is because I don't tell you. There's a REASON for that!


I'm starting to see what they meant about codependency. You are a grown woman and he's your husband and caregiver, not your father. You don't need to tell him when you take headache medicine, you are capable of functioning in the world without him, and you're the one with the chronic illness. Maybe that's why he works out of the house so much, he needs a break from constantly being 'needed' by you. I'm not saying you don't need more than the average spouse, I'm saying your dependence seems to go beyond even needing a caregiver. I wonder if you get a transplant and get better, how you'll deal with it.