[Chai.]

Hey,

I really appreciate how supportive you are to your girlfriend. But like it has been said above, it is also important that you look after yourself.

I really like the idea of setting rules and times where she cannot be negative. Maybe you could also play the one positive thing everyday game with her. My friend and I did that. We'd both tell each other one positive thing every day. Initially, it would be hard, since we were both struggling with a number of things and thinking about something positive was difficult but with time we learnt to see the positive in our life just so we could tell each other. You could play it in such a way that you both tell each other a positive thing daily.

As much as you love her and care for her, you need to take some time to yourself. Maybe once a week or twice a week you could do something without her. Meet new friends, play video games, whatever you enjoy but do it for yourself.

Since your girlfriend has problems at home there is a chance that these problems weigh in on her thoughts throughout the day. As much as ranting about it helps, distracting her from these thoughts could be helpful too. Maybe the two of you could do something fun together. Join a club that goes trekking or hiking on weekends, go for a picnic, join a new hobby together. Do something that you both enjoy, that will help distract her and also make both of you happy.

Does she have anybody else to turn to apart from you? I think it'd be great if she opened up to an adult like a teacher at school or a counsellor. If she isn't doing this, I think you should suggest it. She definitely requires a support system but not at the cost of wearing you out.

I hope this was atleast a little helpful. I can imagine how hard this situation must be for you and I want you to know that you can message me, if you want to talk. <3

Take care,
Kav.