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Originally Posted by del677
First of all congratulations on having a boyfriend!
I think anyone you tell their first thought would be, "How can I help? What should I do." They may need some coaching on this, which you can give him.
People who don't understand will find it strange that someone would cut themselves, and even stranger when told it actually feels good.
Tell him what you want him to do. (It's basically training your boyfriend, which all women have to do.)
If you go into a depression, what would you like him to do about it? What makes you feel better?
For me, I just want someone to be there with me. They don't try to fix me, they know just being there is the fix. If I want to talk, they listen. They don't try to fix my problems, they know the listening itself is the fix.
Sometimes I want a distraction. Take me to a movie, watch a TV show with me, hug me, hold me, distract me with sex, understand for me it's a waiting game as I wait for the doctor to find a med that works for me and fixes my depression.
I've trained my partner what to do. (It's also possible this actually deepens our relationship. People like helping people. It can invoke deep feelings of love and caring and affection.)
Best wishes hope you feel better soon.
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Thank you!
I'll keep this all in mind.