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Aromantic Asexual and kinda lonely - December 28th 2016, 11:23 PM
Hey all,

I'm not too sure whether I'm going to word this very well but it's something I really need some guidance on. A little over a year ago I discovered I was probably aromantic and asexual and came out to my friends, and since then I've also told my sister and a few people at my old job, and most people who know me know that I'm uninterested in dating or sex in any way because both make me feel a little uncomfortable. I'm not ashamed of being an aroace at all, but I'm not proud of it either.

I guess the problem is that everyone I know is romantic and sexual, in that they're searching for someone or already have someone. People I don't know are too, so internet dating is always a topc that comes up, and even my family have started talking about marriage and babies because I'm 21 now, and I guess it's a pretty normal thing to discuss. But all I keep thinking is that I'm going to be on my own in the future. It's really upsetting because I know that everyone else I'm close with will probably find someone at some point who they'll fall in love with. It's obviously not promised to anyone but it's one of those things everyone aims for. Even my parents tell me how when you find someone, your friends sort of have to share you with them. That would be fine, but all I can think about is how I'll be sharing my friends with people, but they won't be sharing me. I'll be taking a back seat for everyone and I don't really have that same future.

I guess I'm just scared because I've always felt a bit lonely as it is. It's not a new problem but now I have even more reason to see it being a problem in the long run. I don't have any aroace friends. I've tried a forum but they all tend to be really proud of who they are and they don't see it as a problem, and I'm a bit uncomfortable posting there because they all know way more about sexuality than I do.

I don't know what I'm asking but. I don't know. I needed to tell someone and if anyone at all either has a similar experience or can offer some advice I'd be really grateful.

Thanks!