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That's really bizarre that she's not at least panicking. I'm so sorry. She might just be in denial - imagine being married to a guy and finding out he's actually a scum bag - but that's still wrong an incredibly unfair to you, there is no real reason to put yourself on the line like that if it weren't true, and I hope she'll realize the error of her ways and come around to be supportive.

You don't need to like, advertise this on social media, but you deserve to be able to reach out for help. I get that their embarrassed, but you shouldn't have to turn away you're feelings just because they don't want to admit to having a scum bag in their mix.