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I agree with Jessica. I'm sure your parents are lovely people. But because of my own problems with anxiety and depression, I've had to learn pretty quick that parents are imperfect. Sometimes even the best parents do things that aren't always awesome for us. It's possible your parents have some weird hang ups about mental illness or maybe they've got an image of a perfect family and think acknowledging mental illness would be worse than leaving you on your own to cope with debilitating symptoms and social rejection. Nothing about it is reasonable and obviously it is not helpful for you. My point is, they're going to think and and believe and behave and act the way that they want. You can't make them change that. Are there any other adults, a guidance counsellor for example, who you can talk to? They might be able to help with getting a formal diagnosis, finding you a counsellor, and talking to your parents since they might be willing to bend and try to understand if another adult is like "this isn't ok, your kid needs help, smarten up and stop with the shitty parenting".

Your issues are affecting your day to day life, so I definitely think you need to find an adult who can advocate on your behalf.

I know what you're going through though ok. I have generalized anxiety, where as what you describe sounds more like social anxiety (as I am not a doctor, I can't diagnose!) so the expression of my anxiety is different, but I know what it feels like to have it affect your life and for your parents not to take you seriously. It can get better. I hope youre able to reach out to someone and get there.