[Jess~]

Originally Posted by Kate*

Okay, I can see you're torn about the relationship situation, so I'm going to recommend that you not move across the country to be with him. Like you said, there's a chance it won't work and then you'd be stuck out here with very few people other than him. At least visit him a few times before you make a decision that big based on a guy.

If you have no idea what you want to do, you don't have to go to college at all right now. It's true that the longer you wait the harder it will be, but if you don't have a plan yet, it doesn't make much sense to go now either. You could go to get the basic stuff out of the way and/or get a job for now then decide after a year or so what you want to do. I know high school (and the rest of the world) pressures you to have it all figured out, but you absolutely don't have to. I had my life planned at 12 and then disaster struck. There are people who ended up doing things completely different than they planned or have degrees in because things change and life happens and you'll have to come up with a new plan.

Relationships aren't my forte, but I've been to community college, private 4-year undergrad, and a public university for graduate school, and I've graduated and failed miserably so if you want to know anything about any of the educational stuff you can ask me.

it would be ideal to visit him a few times, but we send in college applications in november and that's not enough time to do that.. especially since my parents have no idea about him and would freak out, disapprove, and do everything in their power to forbid it if they did know.
should i just apply to schools out there too, just in case? then visit or try to get him to visit over summer or something?

i don't know.. everyone's just kinda saying that even if i don't have a plan now, it'd be better to go to a four year college and figure out my plans along the way..?
i'm just so scared about running out of time to decide on what the hell i'm gonna do, as far as going to a four year as opposed to community college for my basics.. nobody really teaches us what to look for in colleges or even HOW to research them. all colleges look exactly the same to me, academically.

how did you decide on what to do when going to college? as far as choosing a college and which type of school and all that..?