[Kate*]

Please tell me you just moved those, that they're sitting in the other room because as much as I know they don't belong where they were, some of that was important, even if I can never use it again, you had no right to throw it away without me knowing. If I end up having to apply for that, I could use that form as evidence unless it no longer exists.

TOUGH LOVE is the answer here, but you'll never do it and getting everybody on the same page is just impossible. I think you know what to do, you just won't do it. If she "shuts down" and throws tantrums at least she'll be doing it in a safe environment where she'll be taken care of while she's acting like a 2-year old. There's a difference between having depression and threatening to "shut down" if she doesn't get her way. I have it too, but I don't threaten crap to your face every 5 minutes to emotionally manipulate you into giving me what I want. I keep it to myself around you so you don't have to deal with it. I've found other people to vent to. You would never let me get away with that, but you let her drive you up the wall with it. I don't get it.

I really want your advice here, but I don't want to depend on you to keep me afloat, especially since you can't do anything; plus you don't advise, which you know drives me nuts. I need to be careful with this.