[Kate*]

Here's one: GROW UP!!!

My birthday was awesome (for me anyway, I'm pretty low maintenance), I want my mom's Mother's day to be the same way, at least as close as I can. Instead, I'm dreading it because we have to go deal with you for hours, and you want to act like a toddler. Nobody really wants to, but we have no choice. I should feel guilty for saying that, but my feelings are valid so I won't apologize for them. I'll just never tell you.

You have the right to "reasonable" accommodations, not to be self-righteous and demanding about not getting what you "need." If everyone is treating you "unfairly", maybe you're asking too much.

I've learned the difference between want and need; I was abused by them and the only thing I ever "demanded" was to be treated fairly, and like a human being with feelings.

As one of the few professionals who deals with this, do you condone your clients self-advocating self-rightiously?! Stop pushing this insistence on accommodations like we have a right to be entitled about having them.