[Palmolive]

Hello!

Thanks for coming to us here. I hope we can help you in one way or another.

It sounds like your home situation is tough and if you can tell us a little bit more about the situation with your dad then that'd be helpful but don't feel like you have to. I agree with Cassie, that getting out and having a change if scenery when we are struggling can be really helpful and beneficial. Going for a walk, changing rooms you're in, going in the garden or even creating a safe space somewhere in your home where you can go to when you are struggling might be helpful.

Do you use distractions? Maybe it'd be good to take a look at the link that has been sent to you already. Things like reading, writing, running, walking, watching tv or a film, talking to someone, being with friends and family, playing games, doing a puzzle, cooking or baking, going to the gym, working, coming online and so on can be really helpful and distract us from what's going on in our minds IE. the urges. Not everything is going to work for you though so it's about trial and error and finding the things that do help you so don't give up on everything when something doesn't work, keep on trying!

Also talking to people about how we feel can be really helpful and this is something I want to really encourage you to do. I know reaching out to someone can be scary and I know its a big step but it can be so so helpful. Anyone you trust is someone good to talk to like a family member, a friend, a teacher, a school counsellor, your doctor etc. These people all care about you and love you and want to be able to help you but they ca only do so if they know what is going on for you, you know? And it is okay for you to let them in.You don't have to suffer through this alone. And we're always here for you aswell. I know some people say having someone over the internet isn't the same but I guess sometimes, it's better than not having anyone at all so just remember that you are NEVER alone in this.

Just keep fighting and don't be afraid to reach out for help when you're struggling.

Hope and wishes,
Jessie