Re: "Bullies" at work -
May 2nd 2016, 03:07 PM
This has happened to me a lot in school, less so in college. I am like very quiet usually so that's different than being outspoken but it still hurts either way and I'm sorry you're going through that.
I think the main thing is that some people value a certain narrow kind of personality type rather than embracing the fact that each person is unique, and has something to offer. It is inappropriate and unprofessional for a workplace.
I don't have advice but I just wanted to give you my moral support on getting through this situation. The thing to keep in mind is that it isn't you, it's them. They're being immature. One day when you are able to, you'll move on and be around nicer people. You won't stay at this job forever, and you can also increase the positive supportive people outside your workplace. there are people who will appreciate you and enjoy having you around. There are people you will value you and not treat you in such a way that they do. Their attitude towards you is just something to work through for the time being, until you can find better.whether you decide to ignore it or inform a higher up is up to you. I know it can be hard to ignore but at the same time higher ups are not always helpful in bullying situations because they may have a "blind spot" or they do believe you but take too much of a "militant" style action. Whatever you decide, try to focus on the tasks at hand and the things that lift you up to help keep you going. The little things that can be appreciated. Your sense of humor, even if it just in your head. In high school when classmates were making fun of me or behaving in similar upsetting ways, I would imagine that they are each a different animal performing at a circus. I don't know how or ehy I thought of that but it made the situation a tiny bit bearable. I never told them directly that I was picturing their faces as monkeys and whatnot. It was just an insider joke between me and myself. I drew cartoonish pictures of the professors who bothered me with their condescending attitude towards the class. These little things helped.
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