[Kate*]

There were two things that I absolutely could not stand:

Having it explained to me like I was a 5-year old (the only thing you did that ever pissed me off)

Being told I "lack" and need to "learn" it, when it was clear to everyone I had more than the person who said that (and the fact that she got a PhD. and I got a dismissal)

It's becoming clearer to me that you lied when you said you cared. I'm obviously not the only one who doesn't belong there, regardless of the reason you got rid of me. I'm not convinced it's impossible, but I don't know how much of it was the disorder (me, but not my fault), you screwing me over (YOU making it my fault), and me standing up to you for treating me like less than human (me only your fault and I'd do it again.) Either way it ruined my life for the foreseeable future, and possibly forever. This is the kind of stuff people don't recover from and you get to go on with your life like nothing happened while claiming you "felt terrible" like that makes it all okay and changes anything.

And you, I would LOVE to know what you're doing up there.

I get that you're a professional in this and I can never be one, but I also live first-hand with this and you never will. STOP pushing IEPs so hard! "Special" accommodations and treatment aren't the solution to everything that this causes. Plus, she said right there HE DOESN'T WANT IT. Even I know you deal with that instead of pushing it on someone who doesn't want it.

Sometimes I realize the gift that adult diagnosis really was. I can function without anything "special", know when and how to pick battles, the difference between need and want, and never developed the sense of entitlement or expectation of help and support because life and most people probably won't bend over backwards for you and you should never expect them to even if others have before.