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I think that virginity is super complex. Traditionally, it's always been about penetrative penis-vagina sex, but realistically I think even before people start to be more open minded about non-heterosexual relationships it was always more complicated as that; like I am pretty sure that even the traditionalists would think that oral sex still "counts" in their internalized list of things that "should have waited for marriage" and therefore technically fall into the "virginity" category, you know what I mean.

The way I see it is that virginity is much more of an emotional / mental state than it is a physical one and it is a highly personal one. I considered myself a virgin until the first time that I had penetrative sex with a man (I am a woman), but a gay man might consider that the first time he had anal OR the first time he received oral, or maybe it's the first time you had oral (I know plenty of heterosexual people who would also seriously question their virginity at this point, especially because like does a hymen have to break for virginity to be lost? How does a man "really" lose virginity in that case? isn't oral just as intimate?).

I think that now that the question has opened up to be open to conversations, people have become more interested in trying to define it, but I think the definition is still not 1 thing, it's a personal thing.