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Re: can't please my boyfriend? :/ -
October 31st 2015, 06:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Anglidash
Sex doesn't need to be all about orgasm- sure they feel good, but all of the stuff before that can be equally as good. It can take time before you can work out what actually makes you both orgasm. What will make one guy orgasm is different to another and the same for you. Not all guys come from head, not all girls will come from fingering. Everyone is different, seriously. As mentioned above communication is really really important, but so is...instruction. Show him what makes you feel good, and ask him to do the same. No one is going to be perfect, sex is is awkward, messy and human. But with time and patience, it's likely you'll get there. This isn't a "problem", more like a work in progress 
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This, it can take time to figure it out. And, there are some boys that don't orgasm from blow jobs. I've given my boyfriend a number of blow jobs and I only ever got him to orgasm once. It was nice to do but just because he didn't orgasm every time doesn't mean that we didn't enjoy trying. The same goes for oral sex with me. I've yet to reach orgasm (I think a lot of it has to due with my medication) but I have come close at least once or twice.
Things like this take time. You both have to figure one another out and all of that.
You asked about ways to make sure the relationship isn't all about sex. The only way I can think of to work on this is by talking to him about your concerns. If you are content with the way things are then you can keep doing them but if you ever feel like you are spending more time being sexual then you are being a couple let him know. The only way you can work on things like this is if you open up about it.
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