[Kindred]

Sex doesn't need to be all about orgasm- sure they feel good, but all of the stuff before that can be equally as good. It can take time before you can work out what actually makes you both orgasm. What will make one guy orgasm is different to another and the same for you. Not all guys come from head, not all girls will come from fingering. Everyone is different, seriously. As mentioned above communication is really really important, but so is...instruction. Show him what makes you feel good, and ask him to do the same. No one is going to be perfect, sex is is awkward, messy and human. But with time and patience, it's likely you'll get there. This isn't a "problem", more like a work in progress