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I decided this morning that I was going to start answering a couple of questions rather than posting them and I can safely say, this is not the sort of question I expected to answer! Regardless, there is nothing embarrassing or wrong about it, I mean this is the Sex and Puberty Forum of the site, and is so for a good reason. You have provided an admirable volume of valour and clarity and I shall return with a corresponding level of value in my response .

The first thing I want to say, is that you have every ounce of permission to turn back sex or scale back your depth of your sexual relationship, so there is no question that you have every right to proclaim that you don't want to go too fast, if that's the way you feel. It takes.... seven words LOL, I can count after all . Anyways, that's the first thing.

The second thing you have to remember is that these things take time, learning sex does take some time. The most important thing when you're having sex is that you trust and that you love the person on the other end, because sex is an act of love. In that regard, your propensity to reach an orgasm, and certainly to get your boyfriend to the point of orgasm is not indicative of the nature and value of your relationship NOR your value as a woman. You HAVE to remember that. As far as HOW to learn sex, WOW you cannot ask a person further from the veins of that answer than myself.

The third and final thing I will remind you of, is to be careful during your sexual encounters. You have done well to set boundaries for yourself and your boyfriend has done the same, but make sure that, in the pressure that I have picked up that you are feeling to please your boyfriend, you don't step out of your own comfort zone.

I recommend you have an honest and open conversation about sex with your boyfriend and I cannot completely comment on the proposition of breaking up, but if your boyfriend pressurises you in sexuality, even inadvertently, then it might be for the best to speak to him about how you are feeling and/or consider your relationship together. It depends on your individual feelings but sit him down and have a chat about it. Author, George Saunders, married his now wife in three weeks and while I BY NO MEANS recommend you consider the same path, it doesn't make the relationship any less integral..... any less harbouring of integrity..... any less... Ugh. No, not ugh, but ugh as in me. Ugh as in mugh .

Anyways, the most important part in that declaration was that you do not let this define your value as a woman or as a person. Because you're beautiful regardless of whether your boyfriend reaches orgasm as a result of that beauty.