TeenHelp - View Single Post - I'm moving in with my boyfriends parents soon. Telling my family is going to be hell.

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Hey, Kimmie.

Firstly, moving out is a big step and you must be in quite a committed relationship to be moving in with your boyfriend. I don't mean to possibly offend, upset or cause any pressure on you but do you see yourself marrying your boyfriend anytime soon? You don't have to answer that as it's simply a question I'm bringing up for a point. If so, to respect your parents' wishes, is it possible that you could wait until marriage to move out if it will be sometime soon? And in the meantime try to make compromises with your parents on what has been frustrating you?

Especially due to the fact that your parents do not want their daughters to move out before they are married, they most likely will be upset but I do hope you can eventually get through to them to the point where they support you and in a way so that you can still maintain a close relationship with your parents. The thing is, approaching them in a calm, respectful and mature manner is the best way to go for a hopefully more positive outcome.

You can explain the reasoning as to why you want to move out. The lack of space, the way you feel as they're checking up on you so often each time you go out and so on. They most likely simply care for you and worry. So while their actions are understandably frustrating for you, it would be a good idea to keep it in mind if you talk to them about it so they clearly see that you acknowledge the reasoning behind what they do. Regardless, it's still okay to feel upset about these things.

Be sure to calmly let them know that you love them but you feel like this would be the best option for you personally. Help them understand why you want to move out. Clearly let them know you want to still be in their life and spend time with them, that you aren't abandoning them at all. Let them know how much you love and care for them in a way that reassures them that you still want to be in their life if that is the truth. I assume it is because I imagine you do love your family a huge deal but are just frustrated with a lot of things at home.

Paige has a great suggestion for if you're worried you won't be able to take your belonging if you move out. If you do decide to move out then moving your personal belongings out little by little when your family isn't home would be a good plan before approaching them about the fact that you're moving out.

Hope this helped and I also hope this goes a lot better than you expect or at least works out in a way both you and your parents are happy with.