[RollTheBones]

I am so sorry that you are in this difficult situation. No one should have to deal with all this shit. It may sound blunt, but I'm going to be brutally honest with you: from your description, YOU NEED TO CEASE ALL CONTACT WITH THIS ASSHOLE AND LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY. He purposefully brings up painful memories from your past, makes a point of not trusting you, is a freaking hypocrite who REPEATEDLY cheats on you and bosses you around, and only puts "effort" into your relationship when he wants something to do with sex.

Oh yeah, not to mention that you said he physically harmed you in a fight and then took advantage of you sexually, which is most definitely NOT okay. Not only is this not boyfriend material, but this is a blatant violation of your basic human rights. This douche obviously has no respect, love, or caring for you at all. He fucking took advantage of you... That's a crime of the worst kind.

Regardless of how it goes with the new guy from your class, I would say that your main priority should be to keep yourself out of harm's way. Your current boyfriend is not only making it miserable for you, but he has hurt you before in so many ways and obviously shows no regret for his actions. YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER.

Hope that helps give an outside perspective.