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Originally Posted by BDF
Easier said than done: grow a thicker skin.
If you get on with everyone else at work... that's good enough. That speaks for itself. You can never please everyone.
The problem isn't you. The problem is that manager, and the odds are that other workers, and managers even, know this.
Remember that.
People like that are everywhere. Unless you catch her doing something remarkably abusive and crossing the line, there's probably little you can effectively do about it (without going Rambo).
Unless she's the "big boss", then she's not going to get you fired, if you're getting on well with everyone else, and everyone else enjoys working with you.
An assigned position of authority, doesn't mean that person necessarily has the "leverage" to truly do harm to someone like you. The "leverage" required to do that, comes from what influence that person has over other people, and like I said earlier, if other people are aware that she's a nuisance, and enjoy working with you... then really, there is little harm she can probably do to you. Therefore: stop feeling threatened, because there is no real threat.
If you feel threatened in situations like that... it might even provoke you eventually to respond in a stupid way. To "react" without thinking. Some people are like this more than others. I don't know where you stand on this. And if someone reacts on impulse in a situation like that, and does something stupid... then yeah, you could get fired. Like I said... stop feeling threatened, because there is no real threat. You worsen the situation by allowing this to get inside your head.
A challenge to step up to a pissing contest isn't a threat. It's pathetic instead. Especially coming from a manager.
Maybe I'm also reading into it too much. Maybe it's just the way she talks to everyone, not just you. I don't know. Some people just have a style of talking that is fkking annoying and patronising, and don't even realise it. If that's the case, then you shouldn't even take it personally.
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Yeah, the impulse thing is why it was worrying me and bothering me, because I would snap back at her just like "Shut the f--k up already!" and that wouldn't be good.
Thanks everyone for all your support and advice. I ended up talking to the higher up manager and he understood. He offered to talk to her and get things straightened out, but I quit. It wasn't a job I liked overall anyway. I had another one set up before I quit so everything's good now. I went back to an old job I had and the manager always was open to have me back, so I'm lucky to have it.