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Re: Shit high school -
September 1st 2015, 11:36 PM
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Originally Posted by BLUE123
how to be less reserved ? how to open up with people ? How to interact with people better ?
@ Nala
I don't love anything or anyone . I just can't . Whenever i get attached to something or someone , i let go . That's what i meant by 'emotionless' . And i end up making everyone who loves me hate me .
About the people in my class 3 years ago , they don't mistreat me . They are all good . I Dunno why but i pretend like i can't see them . I think it's just my stupid attitude .
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Well, firstly I think it's quite great that you want to change this and be more open with people. That's a healthy thing.
Did anything in particular cause you to become this way when it comes to your feelings? By that, I mean letting go when you get attached, not being able to open up and often being reserved. It may be helpful to figure out why you once began doing this to tackle the problem directly. Sounds like you're simply trying to protect yourself, is that it?
Do you have a few close friends? If you have relatively close friends that haven't betrayed you or anything, and if you have family members you trust such as your parents or aunt for example, how about trusting them with a few personal details of yours? Such as struggles you go through and things you feel you need to talk about? Disclosing small things and working up to the bigger things could make it a lot easier for you to open up and become less reserved if you feel allowed to be yourself, you know what I mean?
When you get attached to something or someone, would it help to practice maintaining that attachment? Instead of going back to your patterns of letting go and staying in that cycle, stay instead. I realize that's easier said than done, but maintaining an attachment to someone can bring lots of positive feelings that will make you glad you got close. Sure, there is always that chance of getting hurt, but without getting hurt then how can we know happiness, you know? Just know that either way, you always have support here and I hope you would reach out to people in your personal life such as family whenever you struggle.
Would you consider getting to know the people in your class again? Since they did not mistreat you, then it might be good for you to reconnect with them.
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