[Philomath]

I agree with Ellie.
My family can be this way too and I have found the best solution to be to either ignore and not contribute to the discussion or to redirect the conversation to a less controversial topic.
Definitely pay attention to how you are talking to them. Sometimes we have best intentions in bringing up our frustrations or concersn but we get caught up in our emotions and can seem defensive. That is not probably what you are getting at but they may not understand where you are coming from
Hope that helps and things improve.

P.S. I am moving your thread to the Friends and Family forum because I believe it is a better fit for that forum. If you have any questions about this action please send me a PM and I will be glad to get back to you.