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Re: My boyfriend and I -
July 13th 2015, 11:02 PM
Firstly I want to say thank you for responding it really did mean a lot.
I talk to my boyfriend about this too much and it isn't healthy. I know I do so I've told him I would try and stop but it's like the lack of physical contact brings up a lot of questions and I have no one else to talk to about it and, half the time he is the only person that can answer the questions I have. I just don't want to push him away by talking to him about it too much and there really isn't much more that he can offer other than he doesn't want it to be like this it's just his issues.
I've tried talking to him about his issues and explaining that a lot of the things he is worrying about are things he doesn't need to worry about. That doesn't help. I don't really know what kind of things he can do to not stress. He, finally, completed all his homework for the session so that's one stressful thing out of the way. However, he has a lot of things he has to get done in class and I am pretty sure he is kind of behind. I know he is stressing about that even though he won't tell me.
These aren't things that can be solved. He says that when he gets done with school and is in his externship things will improve but I am having a hard time believing that which is one of the reasons I find myself obsessing over it.
I don't really know any healthy ways to handle stress so I can't be of any help. There really isn't anything that works to help me manage my stress. It just doesn't effect my desire to have sex.
His sleeping isn't something he can change. When he started school he talked about wanting to go to bed at around 9pm because of how early he wakes up but that didn't happen. He didn't sleep all night last night and he is taking a medicine that is supposed to help with sleeping.
I think that's another thing that is frustrating about this situation because there really is nothing I can do to help him. He just has to work through this on his own and there are no guarantees of when that will happen.
I honestly don't feel like I am being that patient and I still feel bad/shallow for being bothered by this. I think the main issue we are having right now is the lack of sex. We communicate great although I worry that I am going to drive him away with how much I talk about things/confide in him. We get along well. We just kind of connect. But, there is this elephant in the room. It's an issue, we both know it's an issue but neither of us know how to solve it. His constant thing is getting done with school. But, if this is how he handles stress, by shutting everything off, there are no guarantees that it will be resolved and that's why it turns complicated.
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