[L4Y]

It sounds as if the way people have treated you for much of your life has left you with a feeling of very low self-worth. That's perfectly understandable, but try to see yourself as a bright person who is more than capable of running her own life.

If your family is constantly having this toxic effect on your life, perhaps it's time to distance yourself from them, at least to a degree. Or at least explain that you are not comfortable with the amount of control they are attempting to place on your life.

In my opinion, if you feel waitressing is a good job fit for you, then you should absolutely go that route. Do what makes you happy - it is your life, after all. Good luck and best wishes.