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Re: Parents.... Fighting and dad having a go at you :( -
June 22nd 2015, 07:40 AM
Hey there. 
Sounds like you're dealing with a lot of family stress and conflict. I'm really sorry about all of this, from everything you wrote, I really can understand why you'd feel so upset and broken over all of this. I hope writing it out helped you some. Do you have anyone in your life you can go to for support during all of this? Such as a trusted teacher, your school counselor or a family member? You aren't worthless at all and your feelings do matter which is why you deserve support through this.
While respecting your elders along with others in your life is important, my point of view is that you aren't wrong at all. Because your uncle was disrespecting your mom by saying such rude, hurtful things to her. You stuck up for her and that's something you should be proud of yourself for. Not everyone can be brave enough to put themselves in the middle of a heated argument to stick up for someone (which sometimes is understandable for a variety of reasons such as safety for one), but you did and that was really sweet of you to do so. It says a lot about how caring you are.
The things your dad said and him yelling at you sounds really painful to deal with. Especially being yelled at for standing up for your mother (who your dad should stand up for as well). The situation he compared this with is quite unfair because I agree, you were only 8 and at that age, you shouldn't have to focus on standing up for others when you can't quite do so yourself due to being so young. Nor should you be yelled at for not doing so.
Do you think your dad would listen if you waited until everyone was calmed down, and you talked to him about all of this? If he's willing to listen, a lot of benefit could come of calmly opening up to him about how recent events have made you feel. Along with explaining that it really hurt and scared you when he said that you wouldn't be a family. Having an honest, calm and mature conversation with him might really help improve your relationship with him.
I hope you're doing okay right now. You can message me if you need someone to talk to, okay? Take care!
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