[delilah]

hey dont worry this happened to my boyfriend when we first started going out, it actally took us 4 months before we could do it. and yeah frustrating for me, but she won't be thinking that badly of u so dont wory about that.

his was performance anxiety too, he did go see a specialist after 3 mnths (of trying like twice or three times a wk) and he said that he could buy some pills for it but in the end one night he was just like fuck it and we just did it. in his case though, he could get an erection while i was giving him head etc, it was just entering. but i think like him you might just need to wait it out. i know how much it can suck through how my boyf told me he felt, but you know, if she's not even moving and acting that into it, it's no wonder your finding it difficult to maintain an erection. let her know, dont be rude obviously be you can be straightford, if you need her to move around, maybe get on top, seem more into it so you can lose yourself in the act more then do it! the doctor basically told my guy to not focus on it and to just think about how hot the girl is or somthing ignore the idea of sex, jus go through the motions.

this being said, my boyf had fucked girls befre,just one night stands, it was jus that this was the first time he cared so was nervous id not like it or somthing. so i duno if that might change some of the reasons. but if even his speclasist basically suggested noting could be done except to keep trying i guess thats all u can do.