[Jack]

Hi there, first of all I want to say welcome to TeenHelp. I hope you like it here and decide to stick around.

Don't worry about losing your erection. It happens to most guys at one time or another, so don't feel too upset about it. Easier said than done I know, but stress and anxiety can be a massive cause of erectile problems. Are there any other factors making you stressed? Maybe you're stressed about something in your home life. Do you have any large work deadline looming? Is something getting you down? If so that could be the problem. Similarly it could just be tiredness, which can also be factor. All of these can be helped by resolving the stress. I know you say you don't feel anxious but I guess there could be something, just throwing that out there as an option.

Similarly depression can also be a cause, similarly some medication for depression or for other things can, itself, lower your sex drive and make it harder to maintain an erection. So if you're on any medication you could check the side effects on the bottle and then ask your doctor if it's causing the problem.

Also are you using a condom? You didn't mention that you were but if so it could perhaps indirectly be a cause. It could be that taking your mind off the sexual act your about to perform to tackle the more practicle task of putting the condom on is doing it. I mean, condoms aren't the most pleasant things and can remind us of infections and illness. They also can reduce sensations and be uncomfortable to use. Maybe the condom feels too tight and restrictive, in which case maybe you need to buy bigger condoms. Do you think that any of this could be causing it at all?

The more often you lose your erection the more frustrated you'll get and this in turn will make it harder for you to get it up. Just try to relax, try intergrating more foreplay into the making out like hand jobs etc and concentrate on the good feeling rather than the idea that you'll have to "perform" in a while. It helps if you're doing something to her at the same time as, again, that helps to keep your mind occupied.

If the problem persists you can always buy a cock ring. Cock rings are used primarily to slow the leakage of blood from the erect penile tissue, thus maintaining your erection for longer. Cock rings can be bought online or in sex shops.

You mentioned something about wondering if your girlfriend was stoned. Well if you're getting high and drunk that certainly wont help you keep an erection. A lot of people drink in the misguided belief that they will be more relaxed when drunk and therefore able to “get it up” more easily when drunk. However they're wrong: Alcohol is a very common cause of temporary impotence. So maybe that could be the reason.

If this continues for a very long time you could always go and talk to your doctor or G.P. about it.

I really hope this helped.