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Originally Posted by Always *

I don't mean to sound unfair, but parents usually treat their children differently. Sometimes it is for a good reason because children respond differently to different types of requests or discipline or rewards - like my brother would be happy with Yu Gi Oh cards as a reward but I might have wanted a new shirt, which I know is a lame example. Let's try another; an autistic child might need a 5 - 10 minute warning to transition away from the TV whereas another non-autistic child might just be expected to get up and leave on the spot, or maybe parents let one child have the choice of movie more often and it's not favouritism, it's because they know their 4 year old is tired and crabby and will probably throw a tantrum otherwise, whereas a more mellow child may not do something like that.

Other times, parents treat their children differently for other reasons that are not so immediately apparent. For example, your mother might worry about your more because you're the youngest and she's seen the things that happened to the older siblings and tries to protect you more in a way that's just not helpful for you.

What might help is just trying to let your mom know that you're being safe and that, while you are happy to talk about your relationship, that you feel like you re being interrogated a lot, which makes you uncomfortable.

Maybe try asking her if something is causing her apparent concern because, while you can't end your relationship and you should be able to spend time with your boyfriend without constant observation, you can try to hear her out and understand why she is worried.

All else failing, you can just tell her that your happy to share about your relationship but you would appreciate it if she didn't approach it like an interrogation.

I hope that helps.

To add on, 4 years is a big age gap if you and your siblings are minors. I definitely can relate, my brothers are 4 and 8 years apart from me, and growing up they could always do things that I couldn't. But when I was 14 and had to be in the living room when my ex boyfriend would come over, my older brother was 18 and they could be in his room. So honestly, while it doesn't seem fair, 4 years can be a lot when you're young and it's very likely your parents had the same rules for your siblings when they were your age.
Remember they are just trying to protect you. You can still do lots of fun things with your boyfriend without needing the privacy of your room. If you don't like having to be in the lounge room, you can go out for a walk or go see a movie. Getting out and doing activities together is a good way to keep your relationship strong and enjoyable.