Hi there,
I am very sorry to hear that you've been going through so much for so long. But I want to tell you that you are an extremely strong person and you will keep being strong.
Counseling only works if you have a counselor who you can connect with. Maybe the counseling you had wasn't a good match, and that's okay. I suggest to keep exploring counselors until you find the right one. Also, in your search, write down what your expectations are of a counselor and that will help you find the best one.
For the relationship part, it's great to work together to work out a problem. A partner can be an ideal tool to help you break free and be happy, however be careful that you do not fully depend on anyone for this. That's not meant to sound like you can't fully trust anyone, but dependency can become a problem without noticing it right away.
I wish you all the best and if you need anything, don't hesitate to
PM me. Again, I highly recommend to stick with finding a counselor who is right for you because it can be the most helpful thing.