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Hey there,

I understand that this is probably a confusing time for both of you! It may also feel a bit scary, especially for your partner.

Maybe you should sit down with your partner and talk to them. If you talk to him, however, remember that this is confusing and scary for your partner, too, so this should be done respectfully. For instance, do you have any questions that they may be able to answer, such as what pronouns/names to use when referring to them, or what you can do to be of support? Those are all reasonable things to ask. If you are unsure of what transgender is or want more information you can always ask this as well. Make it aware they should answer only what they feel comfortable with and you understand that this may be tough and scary right now, but you just want to do what you can to help.

You said you want to stay in the relationship and that is really wonderful. I think that unless your partner says any differently, you should treat them pretty much the same (except for using any appropriate pronouns, etc). If you are unsure if there is anything different you should do, you can definitely ask, but if you two are still dating then there's nothing wrong with still acting romantic and enjoying each other's company.

It is definitely understandable that you need to process things though and that is okay! I think it will become clearer over time once the initial shock has worn off.

-Dez