[Age of Ignorance]

Hi Jessica,

Everyone so far has provided great support and advice. I can't build on their advice much more. You should really talk to her, ask her if there is any way of validating your love and affection for her, whilst maintaining that you're against public displays of affection and sexual contact.

Nevertheless, I would hazard that there is a way of looking at this from her perspective as well. Whilst her actions can never be justified, it helps to understand as well. In my opinion, she was not lashing out because she is sexually deprived or because she thinks you're cheating. It's neither of those things. Those ideas are a symptom of a concept she's concocted in her mind of a relationship with you that she desires. Most people do concoct such concepts. Most of us imagine what it would be like if x happened or if y happened, and since they haven't happened, we question why. The latter question is why she lashed out; she can't seem to find a reason or a logical explanation in her mind. The former questions (or imaginations) are a product of various experiences. In a previous relationship, she might have understood that a certain level of affection from both parties is required to maintain a healthy and dynamic physical dialogue. Alternatively, she might view other relationships as the benchmark. Given that imagination, she wonders why your relationship is not like that, and she desires more affection or a closeness you currently don't have.

The short story to all this is that she doesn't want sex, but sex to her might be a demonstration of affection and can bring you two closer together.

At least, this is exactly how my mind works.

I hope everything goes well. If you want to chat, feel free to send me a PM/VM.

Cheers,

Mitchell