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Originally Posted by bigwheel

Thank you very much for the advice. Here's an update on the situation.

My ex-girlfriend came home late from work, so I decided to ask the following questions:

1) Are you seeing anyone else or? You've never been late home from work so i'm not accussing you at all. You work in a busy hospital, but what with everything that has gone on. If you're seeing someone i'd like to know so I can move on and respect your wishes.

She replied: No. When I said I want to be alone, I meant alone. No guys, nothing. By the time I get another, you will have moved on, anyway.

Question 2) Do you love me? And think we could ever.....EVER fix this and be in a relationship again, or are we done forever?

She replied: I don't know. I wanted space and you didn't give me the space I wanted.

I then noticed she was wearing the blue topaz earrings I bought her for Christmas. So does that change anything??

I'm planning to go NC (no contact) for 2 weeks. Then after 2 whole weeks, if she doesn't want me, i'll expect it and I will be able to move on amicably.

I'm going to be honest man, you are acting immature about it. I'm sorry but that's the truth. She several times gave you a clear sign you're to leave her alone and let her go on with her life as she wants it. Even IF she dated other guys, it's her goddamn right to do so, and you cannot control it or ban her from doing it. You don't own her, get this into your head.

Give her space and leave her alone. Trying to force her to contact with you, controlling and stalking what she does when, where and with who will only make you look pathetic and desperate in her eyes - at least that's the view I have right now. No hate or spite here, I'm just being honest.


I repeat.



LEAVE HER ALONE. It's over. You're 25 years old, and you wanted to think about marriage. Behave like you're worth that and behave for your age.