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Hey mate,

First, let me say that I can't empathise with your situation. I've never been in it before. I have, however, been in her shoes before. Let me explain that, from the outset, she wants her space. What I can tell from those statements of hers is that you're asking questions, and they can be quite overbearing. What I can tell you is that, everytime you ask her something of the sort, she is pushed further away from you. So, essentially, when she replies the way she did, she means this: "stop trying to be my boyfriend; you're not my boyfriend, and I don't want you to be at this stage."

Second, there is one benefit that comes out of this situation: you can move on. You've got your answer; she doesn't want you to be her boyfriend. You cannot however, view this is as a possibility for her coming back if you back away. It is true that this does happen (and has happened, even to me; and so the saying goes, "if you love something, set it free; and if it returns, it returns freely"), but it's disastrous to see it as even a possibility. It will only make it more difficult. You need to go, you need to see it as leaving, and you need to accept that she may never come back.

Third, here is what I would do (which, is merely an opinion and not what you may inevitably do, but I can speak for the other side of the coin): send her a message, telling her that I was tired of her and I was emotionally drained, and could no longer put in the effort that it required to try to be with her. I would tell her that I wished her the best, and perhaps someday you may run into one another. And then I would never speak to her unless she spoke to me first. If she pleads with you to not leave her, then you have some power back, and she is no longer signalling that you're pushing her away, but to the contrary. You may then speak to her freely, but not on the same topic. If she does not plead with you, then you have no power, and you've lost.

Finally, I'm really sorry that you're in this position. Everyone makes mistakes, but everyone also gets a second chance. There are plenty more fish in the sea, and sometimes it's better not to put all of your eggs in one basket (I'm filled with cliches tonight).

Hope you figure it out.

Cheers,

Mitch