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Originally Posted by Harlequin.
Hey,
You're a really great girlfriend, then, and Nala gave you some great advice. The thing about self diagnosing is not that we're doubting she's anorexic or anything, just that seeking help will open up more options for helping her. It's brilliant that you're helping her- it's really admirable- but there is no substitute for medical advice sometimes. Your girlfriend could be killing herself, with the amount she's eating, and it's something serious that needs attention. You say she's already got a therapist- that's good. It's gonna be less of a step to get help if she's already receiving some form of help. If she's not comfortable actually telling her therapist what's going on, could she write her a note and show her, or something like that?
Although you can't force her to eat, there probably will be a point where it will be necessary for either you or her to seek medical advice for this- eating disorders are serious illnesses that can be fatal. I know I'm grateful to my best friend for seeking help on my behalf when things got too bad. Keep an eye on her, encourage her to eat but don't force her or make yourself the enemy. Be supportive and listen to her; you don't need to advise her or anything, just be someone she knows she can talk to.
Thank you very much for replying and all your help
And like we said, good job for being such a good girlfriend. She's very lucky to have someone to stand by her like this.
Laura x
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Hello Laura,
Her therapist, she's been seeing her for about two years now I believe, is extremely religious (Lucy herself is religious) and so her therapist now mainly seems to focus on poking holes in our relationship. She hasn't actually told anyone but myself and her best friend, I actually only just discovered this after talking with her little sister (who she is
veryclose with) and discovering that she had no idea about any of her struggles. I have since told her to keep an eye on her, and we comunicate our worries often -I ask her to keep an extra look out on that she's eating, she asks me for updates ext- I honestly am very unsure of what to do and how to do it. I have considered talking to her mother but am unsure of how to aproach her on the topic, although I do have a rather good relationship with her, as well as being unsure of how to aproach her on it, her mother does not yet know about our relationship.
Lucy says she knows that she should just eat and that she does lose too much weight, but that the need to loose wieght is just too great. "I want to loose weight but I also dont want to go back to that but I also do so that I can loose weight." She has a specific eating pattern, and gets very upset if that gets disturbed (for example if she's out of crackers in the morning) to the point where she's in tears and having panic attacks because she knows she has to eat but bread for example is too much.
I honestly dont know why she wont tell people, I have asked her many times, but she refuses to tell me.