[EmisaurusRex]

Hey there,

When I was much younger and in school I had some friends who found out about the extent of my self-harm and went to the school counselor and a couple of teachers to tell them about it, as they were concerned for my safety. My parents did end up finding out about it, which was difficult and uncomfortable, but necessary as school officials here are required to let parents know about situations like that. When my friends spoke with teachers about their concern, the teachers then spoke to me. They were also concerned about me, and they ultimately just wanted to talk to me about what I needed in order to help me. They didn't lecture me, they just had a conversation with me while we tried to figure out what steps to take to help me the best.

So, if your friend has confided in your tutor, it's really just out of concern for you, ya know? Your friend probably recognizes that you're going through a hard time and could use more support than she is able to give you. If your tutor comes to you about it, take it as an opportunity to get that support. Self-harm really isn't a pleasant thing, and thankfully there is help available for you, you just have to accept it. I know from experience that is easier said than done, but it is definitely worth it. If you find that your tutor is starting to lecture you, tell him that you don't need a lecture about it. Tell him what you DO need. Are you in counseling? If not, maybe they can help connect you to those services. I don't know about the rules there in terms of school officials having to let parents know, but if your parents do find out, let that be an opportunity for added support. You parents may have a hard time understanding at first, but hopefully they will be open about it with you and ask you questions so that they can better understand what you're going through.

As far as your friend wanting to see your scars, you don't have to show her. Tell her that it's a really personal thing and you don't feel comfortable showing her. I've had people ask to see my scars before and I've declined. It's a private thing, and you have the right to choose who you show or don't show. Obviously, there are exceptions to this, like if you had harmed yourself and they needed to make sure you didn't need medical attention. However, you aren't obligated to show your friend your scars. Just be honest with her about it, most people are understanding when you say you don't want to show them.

I hope that things work out okay. Let us know if there's anything else we can help with