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Re: Help! warning- self harm -
November 1st 2014, 08:23 AM
Hey!
Sorry about this situation. I imagine it must feel difficult. I can understand both you opening up about this, and her being upset. There's two sides to any story in my opinion.
Knowing that someone you're close to is struggling and is suicidal can be really difficult to handle on your own. So I can understand why you'd go to someone for advice and support on the situation. I realize you were only wanting to help and receive advice, but if you're ever in a similar situation, then going to an adult may be a better idea. Sometimes talking to a friend you're close to and trust feels easier though, so I understand why you would open up to your friend. If you do ask a friend for advice in the future, you can do things to keep who you're talking about anonymous. Like not disclosing any names or identifying information of who you're asking for advice on.
Your friend may have also felt upset because sometimes things like this can spread around school if you tell someone who gossips. Although, despite the fact that your friend is upset, going to an adult would be the best idea for her safety if she isn't planning on seeking help herself. Going to trusted adults that are in her life would help her, such as her parents and trusted family or hers as they can keep her safe and provide support.
I understand your friend was upset over this, but it wasn't okay of her to react in a physical way like that. Try to give her some time to calm down, then maybe the two of you could talk to each other about this whole situation in a calm and civil manner. If you two get back on better terms, then I suggest encouraging her to seek help from adults around her and consider therapy for her issues. You could also refer her here to TeenHelp too! A support site may be good for her too. HelpLINK is also something she might like to use as it's more anonymous than the forums. Speaking of referral, click here. It's a list of self-harm alternatives that both you and your friend may find helpful.
Here's a list of hotlines that may be helpful for her. If she's actively suicidal (planning), then definitely tell her parents as soon as you can. And if there's any indication that points towards her attempting, then call for an ambulance. While she may be upset, her life is important and I believe someday she'll be thankful for an intervention.
Hope this helped. Your concern for your friend shows that you have a big heart. So don't feel bad, you were only trying to help. 
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