[DemonQueen]

Hey Kitty,

I'm really sorry that you're going through all of this. Living with your boyfriend on your own can be hard enough without adding a 35 year old mooch to the mix.

It might be time to sit your boyfriend down and tell him that this is obviously upsetting you and that his brother has stepped over his boundaries. It would be one thing if the brother helped pay rent or other utilities - then he can make the rules and tell you what to do. I don't think that's the case, though. You could try to come up with a compromise with your boyfriend?

I think that the next time your boyfriend's brother comes over - stand your ground. Tell him that it is YOUR house and that he is a guest and that he needs to follow your rules. (Didn't your parents ever say "my house, my rules!"?) If he doesn't feel like complying, then I would simply call the police. If he is unwanted and has been asked to leave then he will be escorted off the premises for trespassing.

You should not have to feel this way living in your own home, and if your boyfriend cannot see that and cannot come to terms then maybe it's time to rethink the situation. I understand that family is family and nothing can change that, but it's one thing to help a family member. This is just letting him control what goes on. If the brother wants to be in control then maybe it's time for him to move out of his parents house and live on his own.