[Celyn]

Hi Robert,

That sounds like a difficult situation.

I’m afraid that there isn’t much you can do to find out if it was real or not apart from asking your friend outright, and hoping he is honest.

You could also (depending on your area) go to a rape crisis centre and explain the situation and maybe ask for a rape kit (to collect DNA to see if you were raped or not), but that may get your friend in trouble, if he did rape you.

I have never been drunk (I don’t drink) so I can’t really say how the mind works, but I don’t think the mind would fabricate things or get confused and think about what happened when you were 16. I also think that most rape survivors, even if they doubt their memory, will remember the sensations and feelings. I read something about how the body remembers, but I’m not too sure on that.

If it bothers you, either now or in the future, you could look at our hotlines list: http://www.teenhelp.org/hotlines/#rape_and_abuse or speak to your doctor and arrange for some counselling.

Take care