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I would question whether cutting her out of your life completely is the best approach.
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I'm still considering it, but as of right now, the very sight of Sarah stabs me with dread and depresses me. Perhaps more exposure, and closer will help; or maybe I'll just get filled with false hope again, or maybe I'm just exaggerating this whole time.
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Given that you mentioned that she is very focused on her studies and doing the best she can with that, and also having issues of her own outside of class regarding her body, it could very well be the case that she just isn't ready for a relationship and that you hinting at wanting one may have scared her off.
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I don't know about that. She is showing a LOT of favor to one of my friends; despite having nothing in common with him, and him being, to no offense, very annoying even to her. As I read in a previous forum post, maybe I'm just one of those "nasty, uninteresting" guys.
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make sure you're not putting yourself in a position to get burned again with the Russian girls you mention.
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I doubt it will happen with them, they're much less, complicated, you could say, than Sarah. Whereas Sarah is emotional, has ulterior motives almost always, and is very mysterious, the Russians are easy to figure out and not complicated at all. And I also know what I'm doing this time.
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but you should want to be dating that person because it's that person rather than as a "backup plan" or similar.
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I certainly don't plan to do that again. That was said when I was naive and didn't quite understand relationships, their importance, sensitivity, etc
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Sorry if that isn't quite the reply you were looking for, but hopefully what I've said makes sense. If you'd like to discuss things further, please feel free to send me a PM and I'll do my best to help. |
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and answer my post. I think, I'll just try slowly to rebuild a friendship and hopefully exposure will take away my attraction, and thus the dread of being around her.
For dating in general, at this point I don't mind not getting into a relationship, and for one, I don't really want to after this experience. It's too much of a hassle when I could be developing my writing skills or other hobbies. But I need to tie off this one last loose end before I can continue.