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First things first, let me tell you that you're not the only person in their 20's living a similar life. There are others here on TeenHelp who can definitely relate to you, and so can I. When I grew up, I grew up living with my grandmother. I'd never been in a relationship with anyone right up until I was 19 and it never worked out. I've always been in some form of education, I've never had a real job, all my friends have either made families of their own, gotten a great job or gone off to university. I've done none of those. For a while it made me feel like I was being left behind, like I was a failure because I wasn't reaching the stage my friends were reaching was the hardest part. Guess where I am now? Still living at home, never had a real paid job, can't drive, can't afford to go to college anymore, can't go to university. My friends are either married and have a child, have a great job or are succeeding in doing amazing degrees at universities, some of those people were people who'd used to mess around at school/college, bully other people and they've done all those things that I haven't. Thinking about how I got 'left behind' was the thing that hurt me the most, it made me feel lonely and upset, a failure and that I'd never amount to anything. You know what I'd realised? It's never good to compare ourselves to others. Who cares what other people are doing? They're not you and you're not them. Don't compare yourself to other people, you're worth more than that. We all have our limitations and we all have our own lives to contend with. Everyone's life is different. I know that it's hard not to compare yourself to others but as you can see, making comparisons can be a very dangerous and hurtful thing.

Finding someone can be hard in life but there's always someone out there for somebody. There's someone out there for you too. It may feel like it's taking forever but you're in your mid-20's, not mid-70's, you still have a lot of life to live and you still have so many things to do and see, don't give up that hope and remember that we're all different in one way or another, so are you. You're a unique and beautiful individual, don't wish yourself to be someone else, wish yourself to be you.