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All military factions kill, but who they kill is determined by that single unit, that one person. Just because a military force may have harmed a certain generation of people does not necessarily mean that you have. There comes a point in life where you have to use something known as bending the truth. You tell someone the truth, but you hold back part of that truth. By all means tell your girlfriend that you've served in the military, but hold back what orders you had to carry out.

Originally Posted by olive98

but i was told everyone has secrets. mum has kept a secret from me even

Yes, everyone has secrets, but remember that your mum keeping secrets from you is different than that of someone you are in a relationship with. Your mum has raised you from birth, she has kept secrets to protect you from things as a child, a partner however, has done neither of these things.