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Writing you a list like that is definitely opposite of being supportive parents. I think their reasoning behind it was to give you a sort of "wake-up call" on how your behavior goes against their wishes. I always encourage communication in any kind of relationship problem, so that is what I advise here as well. I think you need to have a talk with them about your differences. Let them know how that list made you feel, and try and find some kind of compromise for when they feel upset with your actions.
College is a great transition into have more freedom to be the person you are, however I do think you should try and at least put yourself in your parents shoes and try and understand just why they don't like your music and such. You don't have to agree with them, but being able to have an open mind to their side can be really beneficial.