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Despite how much you may want him to perform oral sex on you, if he doesn't feel comfortable doing so, he shouldn't have to do it. This goes for you as well: if you're not comfortable with something (i.e., performing oral sex on him), you have every right to voice this concern. If he truly cares about you, he'll respect that.

You need to do the same. I know that you want him to perform oral sex on you, but you can't expect it or force it. If you really care about him, you need to respect him entirely - and that includes refraining from forcing him to do anything that he's not comfortable doing.

You said that you know that you can't force him to do anything, and it's good that you realize that. However, I think it's also important for you to be aware of your actions. "Guilting him" into doing something, while not explicitly forcing him, has the same effect.

It is important for couples to express what they desire sexually, and sexuality should be explored together in almost every healthy relationship. However, these are big steps for a lot of people and should be done at a pace that is comfortable for both people in the relationship. Otherwise, it'll pose severe negative effects on the relationship.

For now, give him time. Don't keep mentioning it to him because he may feel obligated into doing something that he's not comfortable doing. If this is a huge deal-breaker for you, perhaps you should determine whether this is the right guy for you. If it's not, continue on with your relationship. As time passes, he will become more comfortable with you and, eventually, you will explore more things as a couple.

Good luck.