[taylalatbh.]

This is a tough one. Because you're not physically together, you're not breaking any of those rules, but if anyone finds out you could still get done for 'grooming' her. Even if you're not being sexual, you're still being romantic (and possible verbally sexual) with her and she is under age. I personally feel it's definitely wrong that you're dating her (even if it's not physical, yet). She's at a different stage in her life, completely different mentally to you and I feel it's unfair.

As for what you should do? Nothing. Don't tell people and don't meet up with her. You'll end up getting yourself in a lot of trouble. Chances are her parents will definitely not approve, even if it's just online for now I doubt they will be okay with their 14 year old talking to an 18 year old, especially being romantic/sexual together. You can either wait until she's of age or find someone new. But even when she's 16, you'll be 20 and that's still a big age gap for when she's still so young, and it's still frowned upon by many. Just think of where you'll be when you're 20, she will still be in school.

Like I said, your other option would be to end things now. As much as that will hurt for the both of you, it might be better for both your lives. No one will be breaking any rules, and you won't have to wait. Especially since it's an LDR, they can be quite stressful for most people, especially with your added age gap issue.

All I can suggest is that you think about the points that I've made and try and make a decision on what will really be best for the both of you.

Take care.