[taylalatbh.]

Hey there.

I must say that this a very strange story. I've never heard of someone going with someone to be in the room while they have sex, so that's a new one to me. I would say that talking to her about this could help you out a lot. But you need to remember that this is in her past, and probably doesn't mean a thing to her. I think the situation has been made worse because you watched it happen. You need to try and think of it in a different way, though. Obviously, she wasn't cheating on you when she did it, so you can't let her having sex prior to you become a problem to you. That's not healthy, and I wouldn't advise marrying her and starting a life with her while you have this hanging over your head.

The previous posters advice for seeing a therapist about this could really benefit you. You obviously have some issues with the fact that your girlfriend has had sex infront of you previously and there's only so much we (as non-professionals) can do for you.

You also don't need to allow this guy to be at the wedding. If he's not a close relative of yours then you can disallow him. But, as stated above, her previous partners shouldn't be a problem for you, that's something that you need to work on because it's not healthy.

I hope you manage to work through this.