[taylalatbh.]

First off, don't feel bad for being here at 21! There's plenty of us here who are over teenaged years.

It does sound like you're in a bit of a situation! It's really great that you talk things out with your boyfriend, I find that that's the best way to be in a relationship. I know it's hard when your boyfriend has a really close friend, but that shouldn't get in the way of your relationship with him because that should be two different areas of his life, and he should really care about you and your feelings. When you said that he said that he sometimes gets bored of you, that striked up a big red flag for me. I don't see it as a very nice thing to say to your partner, as much as you're okay with it. I understand that you're not going to want to be around someone 24/7 but saying that you're bored of them is a little mean. It's fine to be two different people and still really enjoy each others company a lot of the time.

Don't feel disheartened that he enjoys spending time with his friend though. There are things that guys do as mates that a girlfriend just couldn't do, and vice versa. But he shouldn't be having less fun with you. That strikes to me that there's some underline issues in your relationship. He should really enjoy your company and in most cases I've seen, the boyfriend wants to spend more time with the girlfriend than the best friend. Usually it's the best friend who's having the issue you're having.

I don't think your option is an ultimatum for him, but he just needs to understand how his friendship with him makes you feel. If he shrugs it off or doesn't understand then you might need to reconsider the relationship. You should want to be in a relationship where you come first, because that's how it should be. And considering that you're going to be living farther away from him too, is that something you've thought of as putting a strain on the relationship?

All in all, my best advice for you is to try and talk to him again. He needs to understand how this is making you feel. If he doesn't, then I think you've got some real thinking to do.

If you want to talk some more, feel free to PM me.