[PSY]

Hey there! I think the nervousness is fairly normal, given the circumstances. You have known this guy for a long time, so if things don't work out and end badly for whatever reason, you could potentially lose a long-time friend. There's more at stake than there would be if you just met him a few weeks or months ago.

You may be eager to solidify things, which can lead to impatience. Sometimes, impatience can feel similar to nervousness (being "on edge," for example), so it's good that you're trying to dial things down a bit. It's okay for you to take some time to solidify things, especially since you recently went through a break-up.

Are you two considering an exclusive relationship, or a polyamorous relationship? I'm sure you're aware it's important to be on the same page regarding that... but it's also important to be comfortable with the final decision. If he wants an exclusive relationship, but you've been in more polyamorous relationships than exclusive relationships, then you may feel nervous about committing to something that isn't typical for you. On the flip side, you may worry about how well he would be able to handle a polyamorous relationship, or how well the two of you would be able to integrate everything into your relationship (including other partners).

For now, I would continue to experiment with ways to relax, including the obvious: remember that nothing bad has happened yet! Your first date went well, so don't assume the second (or third, fourth, etc.) will be a disaster. There's more evidence to suggest it'll go well than not. =)