[Owl]

Hi Brenna. That is a really horrible and difficult situation to be in.

It sounds like she is in a really bad place right now and needs help, but that doesn't mean you should have to be in a relationship you don't want to be in, or feel responsible for breaking up with her. She shouldn't take this out on you, this sounds like a controlling technique to keep you from leaving. I think in a situation like this, the only option you really have is to get help from someone else. She won't appreciate it, but it sounds to me that that might be the only thing you can do. Unless she is already seeing a professional herself, in which case you could get in contact with them and try to explain it to them? If you can encourage her to see someone herself, that would be great. Otherwise, I'm not sure how old you both are, but you could talk to her parents or a professional. In many cases it would be unfair to force them into getting help, but when someone is forcing you to do something you don't want to, you don't have many options.

Either way, you shouldn't be stuck in a relationship you don't want to be in. If you can help her find someone to talk to and calm down before breaking up with her, that would be great.

If you end up feeling able to break up with her, just be direct but gentle about it. If she makes a threat, tell her that it is unfair and that she is making you feel guilty and trapped due to her threats. Leave and if you have ANY doubt that she might really hurt herself, call 911 or the equivalent for your area and tell them exactly what happened. Let the professionals deal with it. If she really is serious about it, you aren't equipt to deal with it, and its better for everyone involved for you to just let someone trained to do it to help out.

Just make sure you remember that whatever happens is NOT your responsibility. If she were to make a stupid decision, that is horrible, but it was her choice, not yours. You can't save someone when they are set on doing something, and if you try to it can just be worse for both of you.

I hope some other people reply here to offer some different angles. Have a look on the internet for some information too, I just had a quick look and there is a surprising amount of it. Good luck, I hope everything works out alright for you both. Let me know what you think and feel free to send me a message about anything if you need.